Isn't funny how no matter what, a man maintains his standards in women? And that usually means he has high standards. It could be an average at best looking man with no job, and he still would want a model chic. I am talking about the on the surface standards; the superficial standards that men tend to have. (not the ones that we should really be focusing on when looking for a mate. And I am not saying that women do not have superficial reasons, but we are talking about guys today.)
Women on the other hand tend to lower their standards because they think they will never find anybody. They might be the CEO of a company, and won't mind their man being a drug dealer.
What use to be a time when men made more money than women, and served as the provider in a relationship, women kind of had to meet the standards that men set. (always look good, cook, clean, don't talk...lol)
But now that the tables have turned, and statistics are showing that more women are going to college and gaining better positions then men, why is it that men still have their same standards?
Isn't it crazy that when some Black men reach a level of status they go for the model or a white woman. But Black women are starting to make way more money and are still sticking with the average guys, with average money, average intelligence, and average looks. Why are we not finding guys that quote on quote match our status?
What would men do if Black women began to raise their standards to the superficial level that that SOME Black men do?
Like I want my guy to dress to impress, put oil on his chest every night, look good, possibly a White man, blah blah....
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Dats a dope artical. I used to think about this all the time and I realized dat the creator is the best of planners so let the so called sucessful corporate dudes take their models and white women. Maybe the succesful Empress dem is suposed to help raise up the brothers. Cuz if elite got with elite the whole of our people would stay down. Somebody has to help uplift. So dats the positive spin on it but I still feel what you saying. The successful men can lok for supermodels like russel and get done like russel. But at teh end of the day the fact s that brothers are being targeted by society to fail and they are seperating the family and the communities because we have not learned how to adjust to the new circumstances of women being the bread winners. Im not condoning ceo being wit drug dealer but what if that ceo helps him turn his life around? What if that ceo gets wit the trash man and they raise hardworking intelligent children. aint nutin wrong wit dat.
Im luving the topic tho because our generation needs more open convos like this so we can overstand eachother and make things better. They plan but the creator is the best of planners. lets find the light in every situation that seems dark. KhaliefKhadafi
@Khalie: I feel what you are saying. I think that is why I have an issue with Black men that get some type of status and then they go after the so called elite. Instead of sticking with the black chic that had his back since day one.
I am not saying that they do not have the right to date whoever they want, but like you said it begins to seperate the black families and communities. We do not know how to work together and make each other better. Instead we just look for someone that is already good.
I think that people should find people not based on superficial characteristics and status, but qualities in a person that will help you grow and help you raise your family.
It seems to me that men tend to give up on the typical Black woman once they make it to the top. It appears that more women stick with their Black men no matter what.
whats up with that?
At the end of the day I think that people have the right to have whatever standards they want in a person. And I am not saying that someone should not have to work to better themselves like you have. You do not have to bring everyone up. But i think that we should watch the superficial standards that we set once we reach the top.
You make me better...i make you better...we become the best.
Not I just want a model chic and I just want a rich man.
An intellegent/hardworking person is a good request ;)
It all depends on what your values are and how you want your relationship to run. If you decide to base your relationship of faith then social or economic status is irrelevant and you will live life the way you believe your god sees fit (don't get it wrong, I'm a Christian but I don't superimpose my faith on other people).
Under that line of thinking, raising the bar means nothing.
Unfortunately so many people have been consumed by worldly possessions and thinking that none of that really matters. I'm not one to judge, I don't fault people for what they think. I just feel a little pity for them that they may never feel the way I do about someone.
@Robert: Great point when you said it depends on your values and how you want your relationship to run. I guess since people define what a relationship is differently...then it doesnt seem odd that people would look for different things.
so maybe people should start questioning what they think a relationship should be about...but its their life, so I am going to let them live it!
I lowered my standards once, and it got me NO WHERE!!! My standards are very high right now, and I'm very content with that.
Then again, I get flack since I'm not with a black man right now...it never ends.
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