Saturday I went to my very first Bridal Shower. Tons of emotions and thoughts came out of this experience. I think that that if I had to BBM (blackberry message) this post to anyone, that I would use more than half of the emoticons to express this experience. Of course I had signs of joy, happiness, and cries; my Line Sister is getting married and I could never be more excited for the joint union of her and her fiance...a much anticipated event!
But in addition to the above feeling of complete happiness, the 25 year-old blues began to also come out (well, almost 25). Have you looked around lately and began to see marriages and babies popping up left and right all around you, and can't help but think are you behind, is something wrong with you, and when will you be next?
I hate comparing my life to those around me, and actually preach against this quit often to my friends, but I can't help but wonder will I be the black Carrie Bradshaw and not get married til I am almost 40 years old, or even more dreadful become Samantha who never gets married?
This is the thought running through the mind of a young female living in the city of NY, where things seem to happen at a total different rate than every other city in the world. A city where the places you eat, people you meet, obstacles that occur, and things that you learn come in at a speeding rate of at least 120 miles per hour, while the rest of the country goes the freakin speed limit. But when it comes to buying houses, cars, saving tons of money, and of course getting married, we are indeed going below the speed limit....which probably should be illegal.
I am in a city where women tend to focus directly on their careers, or become lost in a city where it seems like Mr. Right lives clear across the city, and trust me that is far far away. I can't help but wonder if the choice to live a rock star lifestyle, party with celebrities, eat the finest food, meet everyone from models to starving artist selling their CD's on the corner, dating everyone from an athlete to your regular NY dude, and having 3 pretty cool gigs, is it worth the delay in my future?
Should I be considering an alternative lifestyle just to get back on track with the rest of the world? This is something that I battle with daily, and strongly wish that the weight would be lifted from my shoulder and the answer would be right in front of me. I am guessing that I might need to make this decision fast before I am stuck truly being a reflection of the ladies in Sex and the City. I'll give myself at least another year, and while I wait, maybe just maybe God will make all my dreams come true right here in the city that Keys says, "Dreams are made of"! We will see...
-The Socialite
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You sound much more like Charlotte in this post than Carrie lol! Carrie just wanted peace and a love she could call her own, whatever that meant, marriage or not... just whatever made her happy. For Samantha (and a lot of others, yours truly included, from a male perspective, obviously lol) being by herself, and doing as she pleased, and whatever made her happy is what she wanted. As I am in the same boat as you are, with the cough25yearoldbluescoughcough, I've noticed the past couple of years more weddings, engagements, and babies are popping up left and right... However, while some are wondering when it's going to be them, and why it hasn't been them already, I'm over here hoping and praying it isn't me... not now but right now... But everyone wants differently for themselves and their lives... I hope you find what you're looking for and what makes you happy. In the mean time, focus on being the best Socialite that you can be, growing and developing into the woman that you want to be, having and doing the things you want to do... I'm sure you'll find something Big when the time is right... I'll however, be over here, avoiding that WHOLE thing like the bubonic plague... lol. P.S. I've hit the city... hope to see you soon!!!
@Savvy: The funny thing is I don't think that I am ready yet either. I kind of just want to have whoever on deck and ready to go when I am! lol see for guys you can wait until you are ready and someone will be waiting for you to pop the question. We kind of have to go through a process, and should not expect to get proposed to right when we are good and ready. lol that would be the life!
and we must hang soon....
LOL @ "on deck" have fun with that... I hope no one is waiting for me... they'll find themselves waiting over a casket... That whole thing, marriage, family, kids, yadda yadda is not in the cards for your boy. I'll be in Fiji, on the beach, w/a mojito... But, I'll come to the weddings!!! Lol. And yes, yes, we'll get up soon. I have an interview tmrw!! Wish me luck!!!
Loved this post. I have no idea if I'm ready for marriage or not. I've never even been in serious like with someone so I don't know about the marriage and babies thing. But, then again, I do see your point. Lots of my friends are starting to settle down and it's a been unnerving because like you, I wonder if there's something wrong with me. Oh wells, I guess we'll just have to wait and see.
Yeah @Loudpen I do not know if I am ready for marriage either, as a matter of fact...I doubt I am. But is that NY talking or me? We will see...
I enjoyed this post. More specifically when you talk about living in NYC and compare it to the rest of the country. I am thinking of moving to NYC and the speed of life shocks me. I think, "If I move to NYC, will I get married til after I leave NYC near 28 years old?" Or "If I move to NYC, I will experience everything there is to offer and life will happen how it's suppose to happen." Gave me a lot of think about. But then again, everything in life will happen as it will, we just have to live each day and it will come...whatever we are looking for. Sounds cheesy and hard to follow but I think it's true!
-Kristina Norman
@Kristina: At the end of the day you are correct. Whatever is for us is going to happen. God has a special plan for each and everyone one of us no matter where you are in the world! We always have to be mindful of how our decisions effect our lives, but for the most part post like these are just food for thought. :) I am glad you enjoyed it.
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