25 and I Found the Secret to Happiness

I am turning the big 25 tomorrow and am pleased with my growth and development as I approach a milestone that many people tend to worry about. It is the milestone that reminds you that you have truly entered adulthood and there is no turning back.

I thought that when I reached this point that I would either be doing my dream job or almost in tears because I wasn't where I wanted to be. I am happy to say that I am at neither points.

At the amazing age of 25 I think I have unlocked the secret to happiness, or let's say I have finally been passed the torch. No I am not doing my dream job, but I have discovered at the age of 25 what most people will never discover in a life time...that is how to look at life in a certain way in order to remain happy.

Ready for the big secret?

....Clean space, clean body, clean mind.

Clean Space: The first task is to make sure that everything around you is in order and organized. Your home must be clean and in some type of order that you understand. You should feel like your home is an escape from the cruel outside world. You should feel relaxed and comfortable. It should smell good, look good, and feel good. This also goes for you car or desk at work. The key is to create mini paradises. Everyone is always trying to escape on a vacation; create one in the spaces you live in everyday. Clean space allows room for you to sort out all the other craziness in your life. I have never been the organized type except when I was younger...I have changed that in a matter of a few days and already a weight has been lifted from my shoulder. I am adding things and taking away things from my "living" space that allows me to truly escape...(great things to add to your space: fresh flowers, plug-ins, paintings, comfortable mattress, and candles)

Clean Body: You must clean yourself physically. Start with a healthy diet. Everyone loves to pig out on the worlds great foods, and believe me I am one of them, but you must mentally convince yourself that a clean body is important. Decrease the amount of junk you put into your body, and watch the "junk" in your life come out. Add exercise to your life, a morning run, gym membership, or simply a physical activity you enjoy doing. You can simply do it for 30 mins a day, and you will instantly feel better. When you feel good physically, your entire attitude changes. You look better in your clothes, so you feel better. You don't feel heavy from junk food. It also takes a certain type of discipline to maintain a healthy physical lifestyle. The mental and physical strength that it takes to maintain this lifestyle will help train your mind to accomplish many other goals in your life. A clean body makes room for a clear mind...

Clean Mind: Time to train your mind! You need focus, discipline, balance, and faith in your life. Finding something to focus on daily, weekly, or monthly is very important. Having focus gets your brain in the habit of obtaining goals. For example I made a monthly goal of reading four books a month. That is a small goal, but accomplishing that small goal creates a feeling of being able to accomplish anything. You also need to have discipline. You need to create challenging goals, and force yourself to stick to them. Take away something you enjoy in your life until you have reached your goals. I have a goal of getting my body in shape, so I took away certain foods and liquor until my goal is reached. Discipline is the secret to success, period. Finally, you need balance. You need to combine work and play in your life, and never too much of either. If you don't have this balance...you will feel like you are missing something in life. Trust me when I say that you can focus all your energy on work and die tomorrow without being able to say you enjoyed life. You won't be buried with your bills....

But what about faith? This gets a paragraph of its own. FAITH is one of the most important pieces to a puzzle of happiness. It is faith that no matter what happens everything will work out as planned. You have to live a life of NO WORRIES! Every time something happens that isn't how you planned it, you must have faith that there is a reason for it. I was in the hospital two weeks ago and was not able to go on a trip that I had planned for a year and I lost all of the money I paid for it. While I was sad for a second, I quickly bounced back with a smile on my face; life could never have been better. I am someone that bounces back from sad to happy in a matter of seconds, because I trust that there is a reason for everything. I trust that there are lessons I must learn in order to become a better me. People often wonder why I am always happy or always talking about how much fun I am having, it is because there is never a moment in my life where I am not celebrating the fact that I am alive. Good, bad, positive, or negative....it is all positive to me!

Once you get that....happiness will never go away! I promise!


I am about to be 25 and I have never felt more alive...

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17 comments:

sonadorasavant said...

Happy Early Birthday B. Great post!

The Socialite said...

Thank you! :)

Sartorially Savvy said...

Glad we got that whole "clean space" thing worked out lol. Great post, the part about faith is exactly where I am right now with everything, heeding the lessons of yesterday, pushing forward through to tomorrow... I'll be kicking up my regiment as well!!! Happy Early Birthday, even though, I'm sure I'll talk to you tomorrow.

The Socialite said...

Thank you! :) Yes the clean space is finally in order. The last piece to my happiness.

Sicrit said...

This is a really good article. You are absolutely right it takes some people a lifetime to receive what you did at 25. A clean space, clean body and clean mind can lead to places you cant even imagine if you didn't have it. I commend you on your growth B and I look forward to your future. Peace & Love!

The Socialite said...

Thanks so much luv! I am honored to have people in my life that can be happy for me. :)

LoudPen said...

Happy Birthday! I am approaching my 25th as well and this post gave me some positivity to look forward to instead of the sudden dread I was having. I was just stressed about the dream job and the dream man (that I don't have) but I'm going to take your advice so I don't continue to stress it. Plus the best is yet to come!

MirthNadir said...

Clean mind is one of the most difficult, yet most rewarding. It takes time. Nice post. Happy B-day and glad you are feeling better two weeks later. Another trip will come along. :)

Jacqueline Johns - Your Happy Life Mentor said...

Congratulations on discovering one of the great secrets to life at the ripe old age of 25!!

Your last paragraph is key.

When you have that faith and understanding, ain't no-one can take it away from you!

I wish you well for the next 25, and the next, and the next.

Live Life Happy!

The Socialite said...

@Loudpen: Thank you for the birthday wishes! Yeah at first I hated the fact that I was turning 25, but I realized that I couldn't look at it that way and plus I am in a great place. Another thing is that some people never make it to 25 so we are blessed.

@Mirth:Thank you for the birthday wishes! And yes a clear mind is very hard to have, but once you get it...ain't know stopping you! :)

@Jac: Thank you for the birthday wishes and for a long life! :)

CEO_In_Training said...

This is a great article and I totally agree with maintaining a regular exercise regimen because it help strengthen the mind. It is so true faith can take you a long way in this life. On that note...I hope that you enjoy your special day and many more blessings to come.

The Socialite said...

@CEO Thank you! and yes faith can take you to places you never imagined going. :)

sharee said...

I visit this site often and this is my first post! happy belated bday:) ...great post it was something I needed to hear. oh and I'm a LEO too!!

Arionne said...

Love this LS! Your writing is such an inspiration. Keep writing! :)

The Socialite said...

@Sharee: I love coming across Leo's!
@Arionne:I love you LS! Thank you...I will. :)

Sample Resumes said...

Thanks for the post. This is really excellent article. You are absolutely right it takes some people a lifetime to receive what you did at 25. Very impressive.

Brandi said...

Thank you! I am glad you enjoyed the post. :) -The Socialite

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