5 Things I Learned from "For Colored Girls"...

1. Women have to slow down when it comes to dating. The fact that we are all in a rush to jump the broom, or that we feel like there are only a few good black men, sometimes clouds our judgment when it comes to dating. We selectively ignore warning signs of a bad relationship because we are afraid that we will end up alone.

2. We must take it slow when it comes to how soon "we let someone in". Watch how soon you let someone into your personal space, physically, mentally, and literally. Hold off on sex, don't let people know everything about you so soon, and the 2nd date does not need to be at your home. When you allow someone in early, you run a higher risk of being taken advantage of.

3. We must support each other as women. We must be there to listen, and be willing to share our library of our own stories. So many women go through the same issues. There is no need for someone to go through a situation alone. We also have to watch out for our sister by not doing on to them what we don't want done to ourselves. We must be each others strength. Like in every Village, Elders make sure to pass these stories on to your daughters as well!

4. If you don't know who you are before you meet him or her, you can easily become more confused. Relationships can change people, but if you already have a strong foundation, it won't always be for the worse.

5. Never judge a person by their current situation. There is always a root to their problem; one that they continued to water, but usually didn't plant. The root of the challenged black man and woman relationship is the root that has caused all of our struggles...we have been placed in a system that has trapped our abilities to have effective relationships.

-The Down-Low Brother
-The Veteran (representing systems such as welfare and prisons that leave you feeling trapped)
-The Hoe
-Feuding Sisters
-Broken family
-The Aggressive Powerful Black Woman


These are a few themes in the movie, and a few examples of why we have challenges in our relationships. All of those themes have a dirty root.



-The Socialite